29 September 2004

Food for thought

The most wonderful thing to ever happen to you has been offered her dream job...in another city far far away.
And she probably won't be coming back anytime soon.
You have commitments that roots you to where you are right now.
And you are struggling just to make ends meet, so frequent trips to visit her is out of the question.


She wants to make you happy so she decides to decline the offer,

Would you:
a) speak up and agree to her decision not to take up the job offer.
b) keep silent thus indirectly agreeing with her decision, even though you know how much the decision costs her.
c) encourage her to take up the job, even though everyday without her will be miserable for you.

I wish that i can be sure that I would choose c) if it ever happens to me, but i'm afraid i will not be strong enough.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

i will choose C... i know i will... although i know i will feel sucky over it... but i will choose C... coz that is the one she will be truly happy with! It will pain me more... but if she knows how i am willing to sacrifice my happiness for her dreams... she will love me even more... this will be my motivation factor to give me the courage to choose C... choosing A will only make me look bad by being selfish.. so C is the only choice!

Cheers

gageism said...

i would KILL to get to mister Anonymous

maybe we can discuss the topic at length over a cuppa arsenic or hydrochloric acid

smilez and kisses =]

CK said...

Gagey, be nice.
You'll scare off my anonymous reader.

Anonymous, you have to understand that the person will probably not be able to come back ever again.

Would you still willing let her go, knowing that you might never get to see her again?

Gerard Tay said...

love is selfish.. e love we have for another person is a manifestation of our love for ourselves. i.e e fear of being alone without tat person.

i'll choose B

b) keep silent thus indirectly agreeing with her decision, even though you know how much the decision costs her.

yet again u cannot say "even though u know how much the decision costs her.." its like giving injustice to that choice..

lk at it in ure own aspect. wld u leave someone here to pursue ure dream job? or really.. do u even have one? maybe for me money has nvr been a problem.. so i wld rather stay back with e one i love and live a simple life.. den again.. is ure partner capable of leadin e life which u can offer her..

wats on her mind? really.. u nvr will know.. i keep silent cos i dun want to affect e decision although frequent pretence of i ll alright with anything seems fine once in awhile..

den again.. wat if she chose to stay and she regrets? is she e kinds tat will hold it to you.. is she e kind if after going overseas... still love you? i've learnt nvr to trust anyone.. ppl who love you can still betray you... ppl who need you.. wont.. kinda puts things in perspective rite?

is intensity=genuiness... is it romantic love... or mature love... everything in lifes a blur.. i may have chosen B but dependin on my partner.. i ll sway a little to e other options...

Anonymous said...

i understand that i wont be able to see her again.. but then i think i will still choose C... if u really love her... her dream is your dream! like when i find mine... i will hope her to support me to go for it! there is only one dream... but love i believe can always be found again! i dun really believe in that... that person is my love n if i lose that person i will never find another one that i caN LOVE.. maybe u wont be able to love like the same way... but i believe u can still find another love but it will take damn long to forget the old one... but i dun think i will forget her coz she left for a cause n did nothing to make me hate her for me to stop loving her... hahah... i will still choose C.. i guess i have face a situation similar to this before.. i have to let go.. wish her well... n yes i never get to see her again... n i still do miss her! hahaha

cheers